Maribot: Affirmative. XD

Yeah, Mari was hoping you’d respond to this post. It’s always fun to get the ideas and thoughts of people who are actually married or getting married when the post is concerning love.

Yeah, Mari thinks up some weird stuff.

“In the right proportions, dopamine creates intense energy, exhilaration, focused attention, and motivation to win rewards. It is why, when you are newly in love, you can stay up all night, watch the sun rise, run a race, ski fast down a slop ordinarily too steep for our skill. Love makes you bold, makes you bright, makes you run real risks, which you sometimes survive, and sometimes you don’t.”

And this is a quote from an anthropologist, Helen Fisher:

“A woman unconsciously uses orgasms as a way of deciding whether or not a man is good for her. If he’s impatient and rough, and she doesn’t have the orgasm, she may instinctively feel he’s less likely to be a good husband and father. Scientists think the fickle female orgasm may have evolved to help women distinguish Mr. Right from Mr. Wrong.”

Interesting, no?

True. Even if Mari’s heartless explanation of love is true, then how do we define what is real? Mari just watched the Matrix again, so Mari’s thinking along those lines.

Mari supposes we all have to think about our emotions and decide if they feel real to us. Isn’t that what we have our senses (sight, hearing, touch, smell, taste) for? To determine what’s real?

True, love’s corresponding release of dopamine isn’t just a short-term brain response. It’s a long-term thing. Which raises the question in Mari’s mind, what if our initial brain response turns us into dopamine junkies, so we trick ourselves into staying with that person?

Mari’s probably just a heartless robot on this one, because Mari’s thoughts on the subject seem to cheapen love to the point where Mari is nearly calling everyone in love “junkies”.

What has Mari thinking that there’s something more than just the biological dopamine response is the fact that widows and widowers can literally die of broken hearts after their spouse passes. There has to be something that science can’t prove about that.

Again, it’s true that you don’t just fall in love with every single person you find attractive.

And we’re probably not the only species to experience this, you’re right.

Interesting comparison: love and fear.

Actually, Mari hypothesizes that animals do experience the same dopamine or “happy” reward for courting and performing reproductive acts, which would technically be called love. They probably feel just as giddy and “floaty” as we humans do when given this reward by their brains.

However, Mari likes your pessimism and disillusioned attitude. Also, lmao, cute and weird explanation with the dolphins.

Love can make us weak, indeed. People literally do more dangerous things and engage in riskier behaviors all due to an influx of a happy drug in our brains. However, Mari hypothesizes that most people who agree with the statement that “love makes us weak,” have had a bad experience with love (who hasn’t, but Mari’s talking about a character-defining bad experience, not just typical middle school rejection), and can see how their behavior was thusly altered and they acted weakly or stupidly.

True. Love only happens with a special person. And it’s true that there may be more than one special person, but it’s not like we fall in love with every single person we’re attracted to.

Thanks for being one of the happy commentors! You brightened Mari’s day.

Hope I’m making sense- though I doubt it.

So I get what you’re thinking about; is love a biological thing that we can’t control or is there something more than that?

There’s something more than that.